why the 6 dates if you weren't even preparing to enter a serious relationship? I mean, like you said you wanted to focus on studies and stuff.
I don't see how going out on six dates without getting too in-depth or ever sleeping together (at least, I assume that never happened, what with the talk of Condom-In-Jacket) could send a mixed signal that the relationship is serious.
You can build the foundations for a serious relationship before getting into one.
Practice mostly, its like playing a game like Baldurs Gate\Dragon Age: You are going to play a mage and you know that, but first you play a bit with a rogue or paladin to see what is all about. You will not finish the game with this character but you just want to see the gameplay a bit before you go to the real deal.
Sorry, but someone who "practices" on other people's hearts like that deserves to be shot. You shouldn't be entering a romantic relationship hoping that it will end before you get bored. Seriously, what the fuck is that. Nor should you be treating it like you expect it to end by a fixed time. For those people able to separate sexual and romantic desire, entering a friends-with-benefits relationship and not expecting it to go anywhere would be one thing (if the other person is aware of what it is), but that... no, just no.
Myshina, he does seriously sound like he's got a few screws loose. It's one thing for infatuation, it's one thing to be at an early stage of a relationship and hoping that it'll eventually result in marriage (and my own opinion is that if you know enough about the other person and you find them interesting enough to enter a relationship with, that you
should be hoping for the best result, even if it turns out not to happen)... it's another to pop the question that early on. How could you possibly know enough about someone at that early stage to do that? People are so ridiculously complex that there's
no way the person you're proposing to is going to be who and what you seem to think they are.
It's a high level of desperation... That's my opinion, anyway. Real life proposals don't happen at the same rate they do in Skyrim or The Sims.
Whoa! Your post just happened. Give me a sec to read and think and I'll edit this post to reflect that.
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First off, they seriously can't arrest him for trespassing on your property and/or harassment? Because I'd be worried about him being enough of a psycho to break in at night. Failing that you can just claim he's trying to get the door open now and it should be sufficient.
And, yeah, I was right to assume that he's got some issues. For him to become so forceful while sober? Needs a shrink, fast.
I will ask if you've tried telling him,
forcefully, that he needs to leave. Now. If not, then before you do, get a friend to come over. Considering the psychology of the situation, a male friend or relative would be best. (It would probably aggravate him more than if the friend were female, but the guy seriously seems unstable, so that would probably be safer than having a woman over.)
I don't do that submissive shit!
