Katawa Shoujo's Maturity
Posted: Mon Jan 27, 2014 8:28 pm
When I see people talking about Katawa Shoujo, I always see people talking about how well-written it is. Or they talk about how it's unexpectedly heart-warming/wrenching, or they talk about what an impact it's had on their life. All of those things apply to me as well. I've taken up exercise and learning japanese from playing this game, and I've decided to return to college. But what I want to really stress is how Katawa Shoujo might be the most mature romance story that I have ever read.
I grew up on romantic comedies and drama shows. I had always craved the kind of relationship they had in movies and tv shows, where there's some special person they have in their life, and they love each other no matter what, and they perfectly get each other. Arguments between them are only caused by misunderstandings involving third parties, and when these get sorted everything is great and dandy. These are not realistic depictions of relationships. In fact, these are so far from the truth that romance movies are accused of doing to relationships what porn does to sex. I would like to contrast how a romance movie would handle situations in Katawa Shoujo, with how they're actual handled in the game using scenes from story arcs as examples. I have only played two story arcs so far, having only discovered this game a week ago, so sadly I'm lower on discussion material than I would like to be, but I really want to talk about this with some people.
Emi's Story Arc
Later in the arc, Emi becomes emotionally distant. You don't understand why, and when you pressure her about it, she gets angry at you, and you tend to both start saying things you don't mean, and then she runs off angry. You then get the chance to either chase after her, or not.
Romance Movie:Chase her, you fool! She might be angry, but you just have to reaffirm how much you love her! Run her down, grab her by the shoulders and kiss her forcibly! Then she'll understand and everything will be fine.
Katawa Shoujo: Let her go. Both of you are really flustered and worked up. You should just back off for now, chill out, and calm down.
Hanako's Story Arc
There's three major things that pop out in Hanako's arc. The number one thing is that wanting to protect someone is not a healthy foundation for a relationship. I was well aware of this the entire story arc, due to prior experience. The entire arc I was dreading that ending, but much to my amazement, the writers were well aware of this and put in what might the most effective delivery of that message that I've ever seen. So many modern romance play on our desire want something to protect, it was shocking to see a romance talking about how bad it can be.
Number two, is most succinctly summed up with one of Hisao's lines in the final scene of the story arc. "I don't think I understand you at all, but that's okay." To care for someone you do not need to be able to finish each other's sentences, and know exactly when to be there when they need it. People aren't psychic, and you shouldn't expect you or your partner to be. You can still care for each other even if you misinterpret each other at times.
Three might be the most important lesson that could ever be taught to anyone, especially younger males. Your dick is not a magical healing wand of emotions. People are sometimes emotionally damaged. It's part of who they are, it made them who they are. You are not going to cure them by fucking it out of them.
The last two are major themes to the game in general. If you've played any story arc, read on.
1) Everyone has emotional baggage. You are not supposed to cure them of it. In a relationship, you are not the special person who will help them overcome it. You are the person they've chosen to support them while they deal with it. This is the same from their side as well. You also have emotional baggage. Everyone does. Accept it as part of people.
2) Sex is not magical. It's awkward, it's weird, it's not always right, and it doesn't always go as planned. This is normal.
After what I've played of this game, I would legitimately recommend giving this out to high schoolers for them to understand what a realistic relationship is like. I can't believe the game was written with the level of emotional maturity that it has. I want to give a huge shoutout to 4LS for creating the what is by far the most mature video game I have ever played. I apologize for the (probably) excessive spoilers.
End of rant.
I grew up on romantic comedies and drama shows. I had always craved the kind of relationship they had in movies and tv shows, where there's some special person they have in their life, and they love each other no matter what, and they perfectly get each other. Arguments between them are only caused by misunderstandings involving third parties, and when these get sorted everything is great and dandy. These are not realistic depictions of relationships. In fact, these are so far from the truth that romance movies are accused of doing to relationships what porn does to sex. I would like to contrast how a romance movie would handle situations in Katawa Shoujo, with how they're actual handled in the game using scenes from story arcs as examples. I have only played two story arcs so far, having only discovered this game a week ago, so sadly I'm lower on discussion material than I would like to be, but I really want to talk about this with some people.
Emi's Story Arc
Later in the arc, Emi becomes emotionally distant. You don't understand why, and when you pressure her about it, she gets angry at you, and you tend to both start saying things you don't mean, and then she runs off angry. You then get the chance to either chase after her, or not.
Romance Movie:Chase her, you fool! She might be angry, but you just have to reaffirm how much you love her! Run her down, grab her by the shoulders and kiss her forcibly! Then she'll understand and everything will be fine.
Katawa Shoujo: Let her go. Both of you are really flustered and worked up. You should just back off for now, chill out, and calm down.
Hanako's Story Arc
There's three major things that pop out in Hanako's arc. The number one thing is that wanting to protect someone is not a healthy foundation for a relationship. I was well aware of this the entire story arc, due to prior experience. The entire arc I was dreading that ending, but much to my amazement, the writers were well aware of this and put in what might the most effective delivery of that message that I've ever seen. So many modern romance play on our desire want something to protect, it was shocking to see a romance talking about how bad it can be.
Number two, is most succinctly summed up with one of Hisao's lines in the final scene of the story arc. "I don't think I understand you at all, but that's okay." To care for someone you do not need to be able to finish each other's sentences, and know exactly when to be there when they need it. People aren't psychic, and you shouldn't expect you or your partner to be. You can still care for each other even if you misinterpret each other at times.
Three might be the most important lesson that could ever be taught to anyone, especially younger males. Your dick is not a magical healing wand of emotions. People are sometimes emotionally damaged. It's part of who they are, it made them who they are. You are not going to cure them by fucking it out of them.
The last two are major themes to the game in general. If you've played any story arc, read on.
1) Everyone has emotional baggage. You are not supposed to cure them of it. In a relationship, you are not the special person who will help them overcome it. You are the person they've chosen to support them while they deal with it. This is the same from their side as well. You also have emotional baggage. Everyone does. Accept it as part of people.
2) Sex is not magical. It's awkward, it's weird, it's not always right, and it doesn't always go as planned. This is normal.
After what I've played of this game, I would legitimately recommend giving this out to high schoolers for them to understand what a realistic relationship is like. I can't believe the game was written with the level of emotional maturity that it has. I want to give a huge shoutout to 4LS for creating the what is by far the most mature video game I have ever played. I apologize for the (probably) excessive spoilers.
End of rant.