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Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 8:28 pm
by royaltyler
How Hisao regularly talks to Shizune in her path? I just started Learning to Read, so I don't know how much he does it, but at the moment it seems often. I get why he does it, to just have the situation feel less awkward, but couldn't it be seen as rude? And I know how the game somehow tells you that it is alright to do something by accident as long as it is not on purpose when you are around someone with a disability, like the couple times you correct yourself when you say something like 'I see' to Lilly, then you say sorry, and then she says it's fine and don't try to correct yourself on her part, but I mean couldn't regularly talking to Shizune with how much he does be seen as rude? It often feel like facepalm-ing when he does it, is this so with anyone else who has played her path?

Oh, and please comment, don't just do the poll. I just made the poll because I really like making them, so I did, plus it is efficient for quick answers, but really I want comments for this.

Re: Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 9:16 pm
by Xanatos
No, it couldn't.

Re: Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 9:17 pm
by Helbereth
We're programmed to interact with people based on our own understanding of normalcy, which is written into our perceptions long before we reach the cognitive stages of development. When we then meet someone who exists outside that definition, we're quite likely to make mistakes of etiquette.

They're not intentional most of the time, and they're going to happen. If the person on the receiving end of the gaff feels offended, that's really their issue. Shizune never takes real offense to Hisao's mistakes, and most people I've met with similar disabilities are similarly forgiving - having a sense of humor about it, usually.

Were he doing it intentionally, that would be a different story. That's rude and face-palm-worthy. Accidentally talking to a deaf girl, or pointing out sights to a blind person, or giving a thumbs-up to a person without arms are minor gaffs, really; no more intentional or malicious than knocking someone's coffee off their desk when you trip over the waste basket.

Re: Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 11:24 pm
by Pseudogenesis
Find what rude? All you referred to is "It." Am I missing something?

Re: Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 11:40 pm
by Xanatos
Pseudogenesis wrote:Find what rude? All you referred to is "It." Am I missing something?
He thinks it might be rude for someone to talk to deaf people.

How communicating in the way you were raised and taught to communicate could be considered rude is beyond me...Unless Hisao was doing it specifically to avoid her understanding, which would make him a dick.

Re: Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 11:57 pm
by Pseudogenesis
Ah. No, I don't think it's rude. Shizune even signs to him before he learns to. Given Shizune's extremely hardheaded and strong-willed nature, I doubt she'd be emotionally crippled by Hisao saying things she can't hear before they've gotten to know each other well.

Re: Is it Just Me, Or Could it be Considered Rude...

Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2012 8:47 am
by Pyramid Head
Not really, no. You could make an argument for it being a bit insensitive but not fully appreciating a language gap hardly counts as rude. In fact i could make a better argument that you making a larger deal of the language gap when some deaf people are capable of reading lips and understanding what a person is trying to say through gestures and facial expressions and suggesting we shouldn't try verbal communication is rude. Really, you're just making too big a deal of the whole thing acting like we should approach sensory disabled people with the same cautiousness one might approach a fucking landmine.