Are you diagnosed as autistic or otherwise non neurotypical?
I apologize if anything i say here is seen as insensitive.
Being diagnosed myself, i have noticed that within communities that are based on the platonic or sexual appreciation of peoples different from the norm, especially when desires of genuine understanding and finding the lack of difference under the surface is involved, there is a disproportionately high amount of nonneurotypical peoples, which makes a lot sense considering the likelyhood of shared feelings of alienation. So i'm asking this to get statistical confirmation of my impression here as well. I had seen a paper on it years ago that confirmed what i thought but it only asked womens and i can't remember the name of it or find it, research into the psycho/neurology of non normative sexuality is frustratingly lacking.