You shouldn't. My psychotic ex (the one who faked all the crazy shit, etc etc) had a mom just like that. We almost always hung out at her house so we couldn't have sex or anything Hint: We still did. All the time. She didn't trust my parents, which is hilarious because they were significantly better parents at preparing me for real life and not having the whole fucking world revolve around me. My ex did. She always thought she was god's gift to the world. Eventually, my ex convinced me that her mom was abusing her. So I stood up to her.Eurobeatjester wrote:So, a year ago I ended it with the girl I was seeing over distance and some other issues, namely her entirely overbearing mother. She got into another relationship fairly quickly and about two weeks ago the guy dumped her. I'm getting the conversations that she wants to get back together, she misses me, etc.
I do love her still, but I'm trying to explain to her that nothing has changed from a year ago so there's no reason to think something would work now. There's still a huge distance gap, I have no plans to move back to my home state, and her mother is still a constant thorn. As in, completely trying to control every aspect of her life. If she wants a relationship she needs to move away far enough where her mom can't just drop in unannounced.
I tried putting up with it. Really, I did, but after several years of the constant putdowns, talking about me behind my back, and deliberately trying to sabotage our relationship, I just couldn't deal with it anymore. She wasn't willing to stand up to her mother, so why should I?
No. No. Just no. Don't ever do that unless you like WATCH that shit happen. She's gone back and forth on that story half a dozen times since then, and frankly, I'm not gonna bother. I got the satisfaction of breaking their front door, though. Felt kinda bad about that one. Until the second time she asked me when she should come over so I could kill her.
Here's a free life tip: If someone asks you to talk to their suicidal friend, don't end up sleeping with them. It doesn't go anywhere good.