...Okay. Great. Nobody even once debated that point so I'm not sure why you're riled up about it. Also, stating "personal opinion" is utterly pointless and telling of a rather ridiculous "I'm above debate and criticism because it's my opinion!" mindset. Personal opinions can still be debated and, in some cases, proven wrong.ginywiny wrote:Set all that aside, all I'm saying is that, to me, it feels as if Hisao got closer to most of them because of sex.
PERIOD. Personal opinion.
And not to pick on you but I have to be a realist. There is no truth in "for sure, soon you will end up in somebody's arms." because A) You can't possibly know if it will be soon or not and B) You can't possibly know if it will happen for sure. In fact, considering Lily's attitude of hopelessness, it won't be soon because people don't go for sadsacks. And if that outlook does not improve, it just plain won't happen. Comforting platitudes are not truths.
You dated someone who turned out mean and awful. So...YOU ARE PROOF...That sometimes people end up with awful partners and things go bad. Who needs proof of that though? "Don't give up! You could totally end up in a pair of arms that turn out to belong to a complete jerk!" - C'mon, really?
@LilyKitsune: How many have rejected you, in how large an area, in how much time? All important factors if you're jumping to conclusions of sweeping generalization and number-figuring. Maybe you need to widen the selection pool? And that attitude creates a self-fulfilling prophecy more often than not. It's not guaranteed that you'll find a right person for you under any circumstances. But it is guaranteed that, if you just give up on the whole thing, you'll never find anybody at all. And as for not being physically "what they're looking for", well...If you yourself also aren't pleased with your physical side, it may be something to work on after the poor outlook.
If you fix your outlook and keep at it, odds are eventually there'll be somebody. Now, this somebody will be great for a time and that time should be enjoyed...But then they may turn out not to be that great and you may end up on your own again afterward. But you had some good time so take that and look for someone more, someone who will stay great for all the time. And honestly, some people never find that perfect person and they go it alone. But that's just life. They stay happy because they still enjoy themselves. They don't view a partner as the be-all end-all of happiness. So while you're searching and waiting for somebody, just enjoy yourself. Nobody wants somebody who's miserable on their own. After all, if you can't put up with yourself, how will anyone else do it?
Also, I've seen people in their 70s find each other just fine. "Too late" is just nonsense and poison.
