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Would you say that it's wrong to say that Kenji is paranoid? You know, it's a disorder that can require medication and therapy. Still, i'm sure that everyone would agree that Kenji is paranoid - It's obvious.
You can use paranoid as an adjective to describe behavior just as well as narcissism. You can say that someone is melancholic, sadistic, hysterical, antisocial, nymphomaniac, avoidant ... without being a psychotherapist. It's a way to describe people.
You know, you can even receive a therapy for shyness. There is a list of symptoms for shyness and social phobia etc...
Jigoro is definitely narcissistic. The clothes, the hair, the fact that he writes a biography, the way he talks about his former life/achievements, the way he talks down to Hisao. The fact that he mentions his biography which isn't even finished yet multiple times. It can't be more obvious.
You're defending something you aren't doing. I am well aware that mental disorders are often used as a sort of conversational hyperbole. While hyperbole is a million times worse than murder, I am not delusional enough to object to something I find merely distasteful.
You weren't referencing the dictionary definition of narcissistic. You were quoting Wikipedia, which is based upon reference material referring to the actual personality disorder.
Also, if someone exercises excessive caution because he really is demonstrably targeted by dangerous individuals, he isn't paranoid. Similarly, it is possible to be cautious beyond credible threat and not be paranoid - you're just overly cautious.
To carry this over to Jigoro, you aren't narcissistic if you really are the best thing since sliced bread, and the person you're belittling really is only marginally better than a sack of moldy potatoes. It's not really nice or charitable, but it's not narcissistic. By every indicator, Jigoro really is hot shit, and Hisao really is a bit of a louse. Jigoro may be a little self-centered, but that's a far cry from actual narcissism.
Ok, i agree, that's possible. It's still unusual in my opinion. He met Hideaki before they went fishing, so before he had to entertain hisao. Usually childs don't give robotic responses or act like a scientist have sucked out all childish behavior out of them? Especially not if they are bored.
You're jumping around there. During Day 1 he's monotone and terse, but Hisao compares his personality and expressiveness to that of Shizune.
He can't know what Hisao assumes.
Strictly speaking, yuo're correct. This recounting is mostly pulled form me taking note of every indication for their interaction, in an attempt to better characterise how they react to each other.
Some people don't sleep well if they have to sleep in guest rooms. He also knows that Hisao comes from a school for handicapped people. And some people just like to sleep long once they have the time to do so - even successful people tend to do that.
Jigoro never brings it up, but it's what is called a "yellow flag." It isn't an outright disqualifier, but it's a warning.
He gives Hisao a Lunch with eggshells in it.
And Hisao gives him more credit than you do. Hisao considers three possibilities - he's a health nut; he's a bad cook; he's an asshole. You can't cite the eggshells as proof of his assholishness to interpret later actions as assholish and then return to the omelette and argue that he must be an asshole because of everything else he does. That's textbook circular reasoning. So, for the sake of this thought exercise, let's give him the benefit of the three possibilities Hisao considers.
He get's unnatural angry when hisao asks him what he does for a living. Hisao wasn't rude doing so, and hisao answered is previous question (he doesn't know yet).
Do you even believe that yourself or are you just defending Jigoro? It's not that unusual of a question and his reaction is sure out of place. Have you never asked other people what they do? Wouldn't you ask a guy wearing a katana all the time what his profession is?
You're missing the context Hisao gives himself in his internal monologue. Hisao doesn't want to talk about the fact that he hasn't given any thought to the future. So he tries to be oh so smooth and redirect the conversation from himself to Jigoro. He's flattering, too. "Hey, what do YOU do for a living? It must be awesome for you to have all this cool stuff!"
The narcissist you insist Jigoro to be would take that opportunity to be self-congratulatory, and go on about how awesome he is. But the Jigoro that actually exists recognises the empty flattery and calls him out on it. A seasoned businessman has no patience for such hollow and deceptive gestures.
It's not (really) about the question, it's the when and why of the question.
"what...?" was my reaction as well. Hisao wasn't vulgar and his words weren't that careless. He just said how it was. Maybe he didn't got that his questions were rhetorical (i'm not sure if they are).
What innuendo do you see in that sentence? Sure, we could just as well assume that hisao shouted that sentence and had a very angry expression in his face while doing so, but there is no hint that he did.
You really can't see it? If the internet hasn't polluted you to the point where you can see that sentence, actively look for innuendo, and come up empty means that you're a better person than I. So as to not be crass, let's just say that it sounds like he's describing the mechanics of a "comfortable" arrangement.
Also, the simpler, more straightforward answer would be "We took turns." To go into that level of detail as if Jigoro was an idiot is blatantly disrespectful. Goign into that detail could easily be tinged with sarcasm, as if explaining something to a little kid. Then the word choice makes it sound like he's deliberately trying to make it sound as dirty as possible.
You see that he rants about the fact that there weren't enough poles for everyone? That alone is bullshit. He could for example assume that hisao and lilly didn't fished.
There's a certain type of "coarse exterior, soft interior" individual where they voice their minor annoyances as more significant than they are. He outright says that he's glad they enjoyed using his equipment, but their treatment makes it clear that they had no idea what they were doing. So, to emphasise their ignorance, he paints a picture of them using the rods in a comically improper manner.
It wasn't Hisaos idea to go fishing, he can't know that this poles belong to Jigoro or that they are unique poles. Also it probably wasn't him who piled them in the corner. It's something that his daughter or son should know of.
It was obvious that they were Jigoro's poles, but that's beside the point. The biggest strike against Hisao regarding the poles is that he failed to go above and beyond as a guest. A conscientious guest would take the extra effort to not impose upon his hosts, and volunteer to help out when he can. So there's not even a "yellow flag" for the poles, but he did fail to earn brownie points in that regard.
If he doesn't like that Hisao dodges the subject, why not approach that directly?
You're right, he doesn't say "stop avoiding my questions." He harps on the more salient aspects of his rudeness and disregard for authority. Which include dodging questions.
If someone rants about your clothes, what would you answer instead of "i like my clothes, that's why i wear them". Hisao may thought that his Shirt sucks, but that's not what he answered. Again, Jigoro can't read thoughts.
If someone says that your choice of clothing reflects poorly on your character, stating that you like your clothes does nothing to acquit you.
He accuses Hisao of huffing glue.
His response is very polite and soothing.
“He's right. It's slander. Are you a lawyer?”
Oh so very polite.
Since she was 6 years old.
It's not fucking normal that a 6 year old decides to never talk to her father again and keep doing so for 12 years.
Should we really delve into the weeds of what's "not fucking normal" about Shizune's childhood? She's had to deal with deafness, a long string of empty conquests, and an absent mother. And, in all honesty, that's only a small part of what could be massive levels of dysfunctionality. Something happened to make her decide that she wanted to cut her father (her only parent) out of her life. He may be to blame. Or he may not. For all we know, she could blame him (completely unjustifiably) for her mother's absence. But we really don't have enough information. Suffice to say, there are WAY too many moving parts to definitively say "Yup. Dad's fault."
Yea, that's so freaking alpha to be so socially crippled that you can't manage to talk with your 6 year old daughter... for 12 years.
I'm assuming that you don't have a kid. I hate to go all Jigoro on you, but please refrain from stating that a father can (and should) browbeat his daughter into talking to him.