brythain wrote:No, it's providing useful advice; intercultural relationships can be tough.
Threatening disowning is way more than advice. It's emotional and/or financial extortion.
Also, depends on whether age of consent and/or age of parental independence have been reached, no?
Since she was living in her own apartment, one might assume.
She can have agency by resisting her parents and being disowned.
True enough. But the attempt on her family's part is clearly to deny her choice so far as they are able.
in every society, parents say this sort of thing, whether we like it or not.
It would be equally overbearing and obnoxious in those other cultures too, wouldn't it?
Megumeru wrote:Atario wrote:Megumeru wrote:When my younger sister had one (a westerner), my parents warned her about disowning her if she go as far as doing you-know-what.
Isn't this racist and/or denying her agency as a person?
It's a set-mentality, rooted deep in a culture to which I strongly am in favor of. There's usually a period in most of us that stands against that idea, but after learning a bit more and maturing, most of us tend to agree that it's there for a good reason and is content with it.
That didn't answer the question.
if I could share a bit about my family, we are pretty traditional in a sense--she is against that idea as well, which gave me the opportunity to play whack-a-western when he aimed for that funny business.
She was against premarital sex? Then why were the threats against her necessary?
If she consented to it, I might still do the whack-a-western then proceed to imouto beatdown. Might. She knows karate, but is too timid.
Domestic violence, how lovely
Sometimes I think we have too much respect for the west it's degrading--but that's just me.
Oddball wrote:Akira may be laid back and easy going when you see her, but at work her personality flips completely. She's dead serious, strict, and all business.
I actually felt the opposite — she uses her laid-back, easygoing attitude to fluster people who deserve flustering.
Oscar Wildecat wrote:Hisao: "Ah, I see. Speaking of tradition. Is there some special way I should be wearing it? Akira and you mom keep wanting to check and see if I'm wearing it in 'the traditional manner'."
Lilly: ...
Now I'm picturing Akira and mom pulling (!) random, spontaneous kilt-checks on him. Sometimes from behind.
Charmant wrote:Hideaki will cut Jigoro's hair into a mohawk while he sleeps...
Bowl-cut. Bowl-cut Jigoro will definitely be a shamed Jigoro.