Sleverin wrote:The point needs to be made though that Iwanako didn't stop coming to the hospital because she stopped liking Hisao but because Hisao was so severely depressed/angry that he couldn't even talk to her. She saw him slowly wasting away and couldn't stand to see him like that over time and finally decided to stop coming as it didn't seem like he was getting better emotionally.
Well, it's also noted that she never really tried very hard to talk to him either. They would both try, find no words, and then she'd just sit there feeling guilty until the visit was done. And in the end, she seemed to exude a pretty big "I'm just visiting out of obligation now" vibe made all the more apparent by her talk about meeting again in the letter. No real substance, just more guilt and obligation.
No wonder he was depressed. You don't visit a depressed hospital patient just to lounge around radiating guilty obligation waves and you don't send a letter out of nowhere full of more of the same. That's just awful for everyone involved. As for the anger..."Oh woe is me, I'm so depressed that I put you in the hospital!" "Bitch, I'm the one in the hospital, taking a medication cocktail and about to have my entire life uprooted and relocated. Where do you get off being depressed?!"
Ultimately, Hisao's depression fueled her guilt and her guilt fed his depression. And each probably fed the other's resentment, realistically speaking. I know I'd be pretty resentful if someone kept popping in to rain guilt-ridden depression all over my already-pretty-fucking-depressed parade, or someone kept being all silently depressive and raining guilt all over my already-pretty-fucking-guilty parade.