I feel the same way sometimes.. But sometimes, you play out the negatives way more than the positives. For example, when I was in school, I thought I was a very antisocial kid who didn't make any connects at all. It certainly feels that way because I don't talk to any of my high school friends or classmates anymore. I quit facebook these days so there's no connection. But when I was talking to people at a party a little bit back, I was talking to this girl, and she said that I was actually very intimidating and hard to talk to. I thought hmm, that's interesting, I thought I was just boring. So I connected that line of thought to my high school experiences and it turns out that I had a lot more friends than I thought. Evidently my yearbooks were filled to the brim with people who I assumed that I never connected to. Even now, as I remember the yearbook signing days, I was always sitting alone watching other people sign their friend's yearbooks. It goes to show that your perception might only be YOUR perception.Kitsune Spirit wrote:So I just had this thought again:
I often wonder why no one ever bothers to respond to anything I ever write (on other sites, FB namely, and sometimes DA). Am I really that boring, or am I just such a non-entity that they can't even remember that I exist long enough to see what I have to say? It doesn't bother me often enough that I get depressed, but sometimes I notice it, and it makes me feel like a nobody. I really feel alone then as stupid as that may sound. Other "friends" on my accounts - some of whom I actually consider friends and not just "people I know" even if they are internet-friends - have multiple people responding to things they post, while I might only have one comment, if that.
This happens offline to, I get treated like an afterthought, like I'll be in a group of people and the usual automatic "hi how are you" gets passed around and I will get ignored, or they will notice me and this "I guess I should say something to this person too" look briefly comes across their face before they ask me.
I'd make an excellent spy since I seem to be so forgettable...
There's a social psychology term for this, fundamental attribution error. It basically says that we assume the worst out of people. For example, If the the person that you were talking to on facebook suddenly starts ignoring you, you could look at it like they don't want to talk to you anymore, but you could also look at it like oh the person was called to do something and I shouldn't disturb them. It'll make you feel better if you try to make the reasons more positive rather than negative. Now, I know from personal experience that this is very difficult to do when you are in your current frame of thought, but it does feel pretty good when you can constantly avoid the fundamental attribution error.
TL;DR
Your perceptions might make our life seem more negative than positive
Try to avoid assuming the worst of people. Avoid the fundamental attribution error!
Source for the FAE:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamenta ... tion_error
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You lucky little...It must have something to do with those ponies of yours...