Asking her out is definitely not the good choice since she is having boyfriend at very now and I would consider that seriously if she is single and pretty close to me by distance and friendship. (Because I have little doubt that men will flock to her as soon as she is single)Walrusfella wrote:I remember you posting about meeting this girl a few months ago; as I recall it was at a test or a large study event. Probably the best time to do something about your interest in her was back then. It might be good to ask her out now, if only to know one way or the other so you can try to get her off your mind. She may be expecting it, since you took the trouble to look her up. Perhaps private message something like "I really enjoyed hanging out with you those days at [place/event where you met], would you like to [go out/have dinner/watch a movie/whatever] sometime?". I know that's really difficult; it took all the courage I had at the time to just do it once. It might be best in this case to just rip the plaster off so you can move on, as it were.
Definitely don't try to become platonic friends with her with the intention of asking her out when you're closer; I've seen that sort of thing end in tears, and women really dislike that and consider it dishonest.
You seem to fall in love very easily. That's a charming quality, but I guess it hurts you often. I'm not sure what I would do about that, or even if it's something that needs to change at all. I hope you find happiness.
But for now, My usually good patience don't work well with distance with her and my current approach is trying to have 2-minute chat with her daily which quite well-received so far and next approch would be helping her homework (especially English). Even I know doing this is mean I forging platonic relation which will eventually shattered with pain and tear for both of us. But telling that I like her for now is too "direct" for me. As it will be shot down easily and may put me in awkward situation which I had enough from my old crush.
I might selfish to doing this but... I want to be her "friend" for now. But to think that it might harm her feeling which I thinking I will and should protect is... let say part of me regret that I send friend-request to her. So, Walrusfella or anyone. What should I do or not do. Best thing I can think of is define some border that if she is close to me to certain point, I will confess.
I don't do that submissive shit!
