Kouryuu wrote:Sorry I havent replied to anyone, I might be able to again soon <3
I just have a question, I will google it, but I wanted you guys experience. Can you change what your heart wants?
I ask because its really pissing me off and has done for years. Its completely retarded and I hate it. I managed to get it united with my head on everything but theres one thing. I guess I should admit what it is if it isnt obvious enough, its that person I want to get back in contact with. I already know what I want and whats possible/whats not but my heart is being a fucking bitch :/. I dont want it to fuck things up for me again.
And dont you dare say 'follow your heart' because thats what caused or at least added to this mess in the first place.
I'm starting to regret sending that message, so much regret and sadness being remembered...
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?"
"Follow your heart" is very often
terrible advice, and I always wince whenever I hear someone spouting that platitude in a movie or TV show. The heart wants what it wants, despite all reason or good judgment. I've tried to change my heart in regards to what it wants for many, many years, to no avail. What it wants would be disastrous at this point, and would only hurt a great deal of people.
I don't think you can consciously change your heart's desires; I think you can only discipline yourself to ignore it sometimes, and hope that things may change enough that your heart conforms to a different desire. Sometimes it might, but I think you need to be prepared for the possibility that doing the right thing, or doing what's best, may always hurt.
Ask yourself whether what your heart wants right now would really be a good thing to follow through on, or whether it would only result in hurting yourself and/or others. Use wisdom.
Also, Post #1000! Woo hoo!